Although some guys don’t mind this, it can be a complete boner-killer and passion-destroyer. This is stating the obvious, but anal sex can be messy. If you’re nervous about getting f**ked, buy a dildo – then you’re in control. Finger yourself in the shower, find out what feels good for you and get used to the sensation of having something in your ass. It’s your body, it’s your butt, it’s your prostate – that’s the gland full of nerve endings that makes anal sex feel good. I wish I knew what I know now, when I was younger. When I was younger (I’m still in my very very late 20s, or very early 30s before you ask), I had some really painful experiences as a bottom, and some scarily messy experiences as a top.ĭuring gay sex, whether you’re top, bottom, versatile or have no idea (we’ll cover this another time), planning, practice, preparation and communication are all vital when taking it up the rear. It wasn’t until my mid-20s that I got truly comfortable with anal. However, there is more to it and gay men (women too) need to understand how to have anal sex. If having anal sex was as easy as it appears in gay porn, I’d probably do it every day.
